“Wait, Is It a romantic date?”: An innovative new Queer Podcast about Dating | Autostraddle

Welcome to
“Wait, So Is This A Date”
the podcast about queer matchmaking you won’t ever realized you usually needed, organized by me personally, Christina, and Drew Gregory!

This podcast was born from Drew and that I’s common passion for voice memos and deep conversations about internet dating. We have been sending each other vocals memos just for over annually now, heading deep from the things Drew loves about dating (people! enjoyable! flirting!) in addition to situations I detest about matchmaking (People! Fun! Flirting!). We had been having lots of fun, thoughtful, and informative talks and frankly, it seemed rude to rob greater community of those!

Think about you as the friendly neighbor hood co-hosts, directing you through super specific queer matchmaking conundrums because truly, directly online dating podcasts could never. Conundrums like: how can you flirt via IG tales? How do you take long, drawn-out flirting to a higher level? Precisely what does it suggest to trust folks are into you? We will chat with several of Autostraddle’s greatest article authors, perform some very specific games, report on our pop tradition crushes of-the-moment as well as, you will need to respond to the eternal question of one’s occasions:

Waitâ¦is this a date???

Hear the intro below and whet your appetite, then smash that “subscribe” switch wherever fine podcasts tend to be distributed, hence guaranteeing you an enjoyable August 11th, if the first formal episode falls!

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Drew:

Hi, I Am Drew.

Christina:

And I Also’m Christina. Referring to

Hold off, Is It a Date?

An Autostraddle podcast which aimed at practical question, “Wait, so is this a date?”

Drew:

I am so excited to find out.

Theme track plays

Christina:

Yeah. I believe we have been on a journey to learn what are dates and what exactly are maybe not dates, as friends, and as a people, I think.

Drew:

Yeah. As a people. Definition, the queers, the lesbians.

Christina:

Should we inform those queers and lesbians just what all of our whole indealment is actually, like that which we’re to contained in this moment?

Drew:

Like which the audience is?

Christina:

Yeah.

Drew:

Yeah. I will go initially. I’m called Drew Gregory. I am a filmmaker and a writer for autostraddle.com, the m4m websites. I really do countless film and television criticism, and intercourse and online dating writing, and private essays, and items that integrate all of those situations. I am trans and I am a lesbian, and that I feel I should add a 3rd thing because everything is in threes. Exactly what else? What more?

Christina:

Circumstances would continue threes. You have fantastic tresses.

Drew:

Oh, thank you so much.

Christina:

You have got amazing locks, i do believe that is really important.

Drew:

Those tend to be my personal identities. Trans. Lesbian. Fantastic tresses.

Christina:

Those are your own identities.

Drew:

Yeah.

Christina:

I’ve always said that you might be a woman of hair knowledge. I always mentioned that in regards to you.

Drew:

Yeah. It’s really crucial.

Christina:

Yeah. I am Christina Tucker. I’m in addition a writer at Autostraddle, if you’re able to accept it as true, exactly who produces aboutâ¦ oh, let’s simply say whatever comes to mind. Which is truly the feeling. In addition a lesbian. I’m Ebony. I don’t know which else I am.

Drew:

You might also need great hair.

Christina:

Oh yeah, no, What i’m saying is, i do believe this is certainly possibly a podcast of tresses knowledge. Perhaps that need to be the tagline, “a podcast of tresses experience.” I guess individuals are likely questioning how we have got to this podcast specifically.

Drew:

Yes. And like every best part in daily life â and also by that I mean, very, hardly any â it began as a highdea, as something I delivered you in a vocals memo, high. And going back further than that, we began sending voice memos to each other at the start of the pandemic.

Drew, in a voice memo:

Okay. I am merely browsing let you know just like the emotions that I have, and then you can go following that and react to me personally, maybe not respond to me, whatever. I am like, this is exactly me personally being direct and clear. Okay. I am someone whoâ¦ I like speaing frankly about online dating. It’s among my primary subjects of dialogue. I have today mentioned my portion.

Christina, in a voice memo:

Thanks a lot for stating your own portion. Also, six mins and 54 moments. Honestly, quite impressive for you to get that call at that amount of time. We hardly ever really think about online dating. I believe, maybe, an opposite feeling of you and your love to think about online dating and speak about internet dating and, like, end up being dating. I think those are my thoughts. Really, i am giving a Drew-level sound memo, a Drew-length sound memo today. I’m going to send this.

Drew, in a voice memo:

Yeah. I know you do not consider internet dating, not as much as me, possibly less than anybody else I am aware?

Christina, in a voice memo:

In my opinion about matchmaking lower than very nearly anybody I additionally know. I’m not sure. I truthfully don’t know easily’ve fulfilled anybody who doesn’t think about matchmaking in so far as I carry out or as much as I cannot, i suppose.

Drew:

We didn’t actually know each other. We had been colleagues at Autostraddle, but for people that simply don’t understand, Autostraddle is an online work place. It really is more of a Slack situation than a, all of us appear to like lesbian headquarters as well as briefcases. That is not truly the vibe. We failed to truly know both. And, the start of pandemic, there seemed to be some DM sliding and a few relationship building plus some sound memoing. And then we would usually joke it absolutely was like we had a podcast because we would deliver these very long vocals memos. Right after which when I was actually stoned, I was love, “We really should.” And right here the audience is.

Christina:

Yeah. I am aware that which you imply by large some ideas not always getting the most effective some ideas, but i really do have an extremely clear recollection of hearing you say that being like, “Yeah, needless to say we have to have a podcast. Our company is performing for every various other. Have you thought to ask other individuals involved with it?”

Drew:

Mm-hmm (affirmative). Yeah. Generally my personal high a few ideas are such things as, “Oh my personal God, there must be a TV tv series labeled as

Discover Your Star Dual,

the place you grab a high profile following they fulfill someone who â like a random individual who features their unique exact same birth chart. That can, is one of my personal large some ideas that In my opinion might be fantastic. It Really Is likeâ¦

Christina:

Yeah, first of all, TM, Drew Gregory, copyright.

Drew:

Which is a no cost one. Really don’t care and attention.

Christina:

No, it’s not. Drew, I’m acquiring you money, I am about to become your money supervisor for that. Definitely not.

Drew:

I recently need to see these things around. Fundamentally, it is a dating podcast, a queer matchmaking podcast. And another of the reasons exactly why it is that topic, rather than numerous other things Christina and that I mention, is really because I love internet dating and Christina cannot love dating which is an enjoyable little.

Christina:

Less of an admirer.

Drew:

And conflict is reallyâ¦ this is where drama takes place. I do believe Socrates said that.

Christina:

Absolutely.

Drew:

So in retrospect that is the topic. We will protect all kinds of things.

Christina:

Yeah. We will discuss all of the best queer internet dating conundrums, online dating via Instagram.

Drew, in sound clip from future occurrence:

Correct me personally basically’m wrong, but In my opinion Instagram is the better queer dating software.

Shelli, in sound video from future occurrence:

A thousand per cent. It is the most useful.

Christina, in audio video from potential episode:

I have heard this off their queers.

Shelli, in sound clip from potential episode:

Positively. It gives you you virtually everything required, unless a person’s exclusive. But even though you’re exclusive, baby, we’ll learn all about you, some sort of way.

Drew, in audio video from future event:

We are going to talk about the number one intercourse we’ve ever had.

Dani, in audio clip from potential episode:

After which I finally requested like, “No, do you run-over here for gender? Tend to be we attending have intercourse?” And they happened to be like, “Yeah, that’s what i needed.” Therefore was like, the pet additionally the puppy happened to be inside the space and there ended up being cat-and-dog locks everywhere. And I also was like, absolutely having an allergic impulse although we were having sexual intercourse. The climax had been, like, cook’s kiss. It actually was the most wonderful knowledge.

Drew, in sound clip from potential occurrence:

Wow.

Christina, in audio video from future event:

I ask yourself whether it’s some thing concerning the hives that really added. Like some âjenesequa’ to this climax experience. It had been like, “Ooh, I’m somewhat itchy also.” We ponder exactly how much that aspects. We are making reference to tips break-up with individuals.

Ro, in audio clip from future episode:

It feels like a really right lifestyle thing, too.

Christina, in sound clip from potential event:

Yeah.

Ro, in sound video from potential episode:

About in my opinion, I feel likeâ¦ My personal straight friends are the ones who will be almost certainly going to say, “Well, fuck see your face. That individual sucks,” easily finish a relationship with some body. While, queer people in living are those who’re prone to preserve friendships with exes or at least see all of our exes in a holistic way.

Christina, in audio clip from potential event:

Whatever you could think of in an internet dating podcast, and I also’m maybe not probably rest to you personally individuals, also a lot more. A lot more than you could actually ever think of.

Drew, in audio video from potential occurrence:

When you are sexting via book, can it be like what you would like themâ¦ will you be doing role-plays of a scenario, like “you’re touching me nowadays” or “I wish you had been touching,” just what tight are we in?

Kayla, in sound clip from potential episode:

Yeah, I happened to be attending ask equivalent concern, really, because that’s a thing that’s usually fascinating if you ask me, specifically just because many of us are people, additionally.

Christina, in audio clip from potential event:

I was likely to state, a group of people fancy, “just what tight tend to be we working?”

Kayla, in sound video from potential occurrence:

Perspective.

Christina, in sound clip from future episode:

Its a detailed next, what is occurring right here?

Kayla, in sound clip from future episode:

Like, strictly next?

Drew:

Listed here is the one thing about queer individuals. Let me make it clear.

Christina:

Okay. Pull-up a chair. This is your own TED Chat. Why don’t we set off.

Drew:

There is many encounters and tend to be so much more fascinating. Merely as I think about the manner in which direct people explore internet dating, its thus dull. And I think so often, queer matchmaking discussions are extensions for the main-stream matchmaking discussion, but incorporating things like “developing” and “very first time you are with a blah, blah, blah.” It is like â there is so much more nuance in so many moreâ¦ It is therefore exciting. What a world that it’s, queer intercourse and queer relationship.

Christina:

We have used like very classic method of dull framework of heterosexual dating and extremely brought it into an innovative new world, filled with extended discussions and handling our emotions. It is incredible work.

Drew:

Yeah. I am actually excited and I hope you-all are excited, because our first event arrives each week from today and then, there will end up being brand new symptoms every Wednesday.

Christina:

This has been one week and soon you’ll hear the podcast. Nailed it. Crushed it. Yeah. Every Wednesday, you won’t only get

To L and Straight Back

on Mondays, you’ll get

Hold Off, Is This A Romantic Date?

on Wednesdays.

Drew:

And I co-host both, so if you dislike myself, I guess you are not playing Autostraddle podcasts. Just in case you do like me, you are pleasant.

Christina:

Also, if you do not like Drew, mature, is exactly what i must state.

Drew:

I am not for everyone, I am fine with that. In my opinion it should be good to not for everyone.

Christina:

Certain. I do believe that is totally reasonable. And maybe a topic we’re able to go over on a single in our potential periods. What takes place when you are maybe not for everyone? I enjoyed that I moved like, “Ooh, why don’t we make this all inclusive.” What the results are as soon as you, we, as folks. You mentioned, let’s do an entire event about, “What if I am not for everybody?”

Drew:

Well, it’s Leo season and I’m a Leo rising and I felt like which makes it about myself. 00:09:54].

Christina:

As am I. Thanks a lot truly.

Drew:

We have been twin Leo risings about this podcast, and that is element of why it will be great. You’ll listen to all of us wherever you tune in to your podcast. It’s going to be a fairly regular podcast scenario. Nothing elegant, no riddles needed to be fixed to discover the event, it’s going to be right there for you.

Christina:

Not the boss people. There are many possibilities, do what you will really.

Drew:

Mm-hmm (affirmative). Okay. Well, you might get all of us on Twitter and Instagram at @waitisthisadate. And you will e-mail all of us at waitisthisadate@gmail.com. And find myself on Twitter and Instagram and TikTok at @draw_gregory, my title in today’s tight.

Christina:

You will find looked over your own social networking accounts several times and I also haven’t ever, until this minute, discovered that it is “draw.” Wow.

Drew:

Yeah. Really that’s the thing, Drew had been used and I also have no idea howâ¦ Oh, I was dating some body that reallyâ¦ really this individual whom we dated, I didn’t get many regarding that relationship, except we mentioned this concept and she believed it was thus funny, like also amusing, frankly, like the main problem, i believe possibly. And that I ended up being motivated to do it, and then it’s just stuck.

Christina:

Wow.

Drew:

But yeah. Often folks think I’m a visual singer while know what, I love to end up being looked at by doing this, but i cannot, I do not obviously have design abilities.

Christina:

I am going to state you’ll find nothing more about brand name for Drew than becoming similar, “Oh, that is your Twitter handle.” Therefore being love, “in fact, its a funny story about matchmaking.”

Drew:

Indeed, exactly.

Christina:

Best.

Drew:

Exactly what are individual handles, and they are they connected to your own enchanting existence?

Christina:

Just, no. You can find me personally at @c_gracet on twitter.com, the web site. Of course you should get a hold of myself on Instagram, can be done therefore, at @christina_gracet. And it’s really actually daring of us to understand my personal Instagram handle.

Drew:

Amazing work.

Christina:

Thanks a lot such.

Drew:

It certainly is a happiness to talk to you and I’m thus thrilled to dive into each one of these exciting subjects. And for our very own listeners to get at know you a bit better and acquire toâ¦ i do believe we could all, I think all of us are likely to learn on this quest.

Christina:

I am hoping very. I enrolled in discovering.

Drew:

Yeah.

Christina:

Like a college span of podcasts. That managed to make it appear to be an absolute bummer. Thus sorry.

Drew:

I don’t know. I’d some fantastic school courses.

Christina:

Obviously, I Did So as well, but I Really Don’t need to make anybodyâ

Drew:

Can you imagine how incredible it would be should you decide turned up to your college class and either people had been your own teacher, or we trained a course together, that’d become hottest thing ever before. Individuals could well be likeâ¦

Christina:

Hottest pass in the city. Enrollment is off the information.

Drew:

Oh, we must have an event that is focused on hot professors. That’s not related.

Christina:

That’s not perhaps not related. We’ll point out that.

Drew:

Sure, sure. I feel like there might be â you must make it somewhat wider, but you never know? You never know just what will maintain tomorrow, and that’s truly exciting. And you also understand who’ll understand? You, listener, as soon as you tune in every Wednesday.

Christina:

You listen in and also you crucially struck that old subscribe key and you will hang out with our company every Wednesday and get your self, “something a romantic date?”

Drew:

Mm-hmm (affirmative). Yeah. That brings me toâ¦ I don’t know. I was merely wonderingâ¦ was actually this a date?

Christina:

Drew, no. This will be a podcast truck.

Drew:

Oh, cool off. Okay. Great. Okay. I think I’m getting the hang of it and you understand what’s fantastic, is because I inquired, now i understand, nowadays directly in interaction is actually exactly what it’s exactly about.

Christina:

Asked and answered. The CT motto.

Drew:

Then one that many people in the society could find out. And now weare going to, hopefully, this is actually a site. That is less of a podcast and a lot more of a political work.

Christina:

Wow. I becamen’t aware of that, but I’m delighted to understand that we’re having both a podcast and a political work. A couple of my personal favorite circumstances. Two of my favorite factors to start out with P, podcasts and governmental acts.

Theme tune takes on.

Christina, in a voice memo:

I believe my impulse is if i prefer individuals and I also would like them inside my existence, I know the simplest way for me to ensure that they’re in my every day life is to ensure they are a friend.

Drew, in a voice memo:

I am merely therefore pleased that people’ve become this type of friends. While out-of quarantine, that’s what occurred, I made this phenomenal brand-new pal, exactly who I love dearly and I’m simply thrilled to talk to you usually, like what something special.